11.29.2011

New Goals: A Military Wife

I have purposefully waited to write this post because I wanted things to be finalized before I made anything "blog official." Taylor will be deploying with his Utah Army National Guard unit to Afghanistan on January 15, 2012. Yup, less than a month after we get married.

Needless to say, things are crazy right now. I'm in the final count-down for the wedding with last minute to-do lists and coordinations and I'm mentally preparing myself with long term goals and short term goals for his departure. Weird that I'm going to be a military wife. The military spouse transformation will be complete with military ID, power of attorney and military spouse benefits.

The thing that keeps me going is knowing that things are going to be okay. We'll be married, we have been separated before and we love each other. Plus, the overriding feeling (even at times stronger than the pain of him leaving which I already feel) is that he is suppose to go. I can't fight it, and it makes his national guard duties easier to accept and support.

Next week I should have some down time because he starts training so I am going to do a "strong women" list of my goals or ideas of how to be successful for the next year of full-time army. If you are, were or know any military spouses, feel free to connect us. If there's anything I've realized in the past month it's that support networks are the only way to stay strong during a spousal separation.

Lots of love,

Hilary

5 comments:

  1. You be okay: :-) I promise!

    Afghanistan ain't so bad. He'll wake up to pretty mountains every morning (Think positive!)

    I'm here now. Let me know if you have questions!

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  2. It's good to know he'll do well there, it's just hard to know what to expect with his leaving, being gone and coming back.

    Thank you for reaching out! I'll definitely let you know if I have any questions.

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  3. I have a few friends from high school who are military wives...one a military mom, too! I'll ask them what their advice is. You two will be great...you'll both be blessed for the service and sacrifices. Plus, you have family that loves both of you and is cheering for you...we've got your back! :)

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  4. Thanks girl! Maybe I'll get a job in OK and come play with you!

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  5. Oh man that's awful! My husband went on TDY a month we got married and I moved to be with him. I definitely feel a fraction of your pain. The paperwork feels like a lot, but you can knock it all out in less than a week if you're aggressive about it. My email is jossiejk@gmail.com if you need advice (not that I'm an expert of any kind) or want to vent about the crappy parts of being a military spouse.

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